This is one of our greatest fears when asking someone out. Do you fancy someone at work or the shop you visit? Sure we all have been there before. We fancy that someone but Yet we do not seem to have the courage to walk up to them and ask them out. Why? I am sure you have heard the word "Rejection".

Rejection is a subject not far from our minds when we want to ask out that sexy woman or man. Once we experience rejection we are deprived of our self-confidence we feel small, worthless and most of all insecure. The fact is, being rejected hurts no matter who we are, we all have experienced it some stage in our life.

The way we handle rejection is totally dependent on our personality, the way we were brought up, our first relationships with the opposite gender etc..

Not so long ago when I worked in the hospitality industry I really fancied this one particular girl. She gave me all the right signs that she feels the same. I did not really have the courage to ask her out face to face as I thought she was out of my league. Dont get me wrong I aint an ugly looking bloke but I just couldnt find the right time. Eventually when I did didnt I make a total fool out of myself.

As it turned out she was married. I thought someone just crushed my heart or tore them out of place. The way she said it with a smile she really brushed me aside.and being in a public did not help either. I could feel my face all red as usual. After that I felt a little bit uneasy around her every time I didnt know how to behave around her. I think she could sense it.

So being in the animal kingdom we cannot be attractive to all and be liked by the opposite sex.Never feel ashamed if you are rejected, move on.Rejection can come in many forms from a partner being unfaithful , calling off a relationship and it can come in small forms a date for instance who decides no to turn up which tells you that either they do not want to take things further or perhaps they were not interested in you after all.If you are on the receiving end of a rejection, keep things in perspective by relating to the many aspects of your life.

Once a rejection occurs we are hurt our minds start asking why? Whats wrong with me is it the way I look, my hair, my shape or perhaps my personality. You ask yourself is it the way you acted that caused the rejection? There are things you should try and avoid.

The fear of rejection is an issue we all face or have faced in our lifes. It stops us approaching the person we really like. Rejection is the curse, confidence is the cure.The way to fix rejection is to balance with confidence building activities in our lives think of positive thoughts and block any negative you may have. If you think positively you will feel healthy and confident. To be exact, the more confident you are, the better you will be able to cope with some forms of rejection. You will be able to shrug off any disappointments with confidence and look forward to the positives.

Unfortunately I do not have all the answers to this complex part of our lives.I am able though to tell you,to be strong, be positive,learn about yourself, get to know your weaknesses and be confident.In time you will be able to brush rejection aside and move along in your life with a smile because you know there is someone out there for you.